Written by: Amna Kamran
You probably would be staring at the title with your eyebrows arched thinking what kind of a day is this? Okay we have a Mother's Day, Father's Day, Sister's Day, Teacher's Day and goodness knows how many other Days. Although these Days don’t have any status in Islam but still they are celebrated world wide. So after thinking about all those Days I thought why not introduce a Day of our own and there is no better place than the 'The Truth' to start it. So as every Day has a theme, the theme of this Day would be to forgive others and have ourselves forgiven. All the other Days are celebrated once a year but we will be celebrating this Day whenever we want!
Allah Almighty has made us all human with countless flaws and weaknesses. There is no one in the world who is perfect in every way. People make mistakes left and right all the time. But the ACTUAL mistake is not realizing our mistake. So when someone makes a mistake, such as hurting our feelings, we should learn to forgive them. Forgiveness has a lot of importance in Islam and has been discussed in detail in the Quran and Ahadith but in these times people think that if they apologize or if they forgive they will appear weak. Today the reason behind the wars, blasts and killings in our country is that people lack the quality of forgiveness. They swear revenge for the slightest, what they think is an, insult.
If we take the example of the best personality in this world Prophet Muhammad صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم we see that he forgave even his worst enemies readily. He forgave his beloved uncle's murderer too! So can't we just forgive small petty things? No one is asking us to forgive murderers, which we could surely never do though we are the ummat of the most forgiving of all human beings, Rasulullah صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم.
Also we have a lot of flaws and so we are in no position to judge others or look down upon them. If we want (and I am sure we do) Allah سبحانہ وتعالی to forgive us then we should learn to forgive others. If we want Him to overlook our weaknesses then we should learn to overlook the weaknesses of others.
How are we supposed to be a united country if we keep on being unforgiving and stubborn? How are we supposed to stand against the non-Muslims if we keep on fighting among ourselves? We have been given the duty of spreading Islam and the non-Muslims are not going to look at our prayers and pilgrimage. They will look at our moral character only, so we should forgive and forget our petty differences and become so united that the non-Muslims would automatically be attracted towards Islam.
Not a day goes by when someone somewhere says something to upset us or hurt us. Many a times we harbour hate and anger against that person in our hearts and don't even think about forgiving them, yet Allah tells us in the Qur'an,
“But forgive them and overlook (their misdeeds). Verily Allah loves those who do good." (Qur'an 5:13)
"Those who repress their anger and who pardon men; verily Allah loves the good-doers." (Qur'an, 3: 134)
The good deed and the evil deed cannot be equal. Repel (the evil) with one which is better (i.e. Allah ordered the faithful believers to be patient at the time of anger, and to excuse those who treat them badly), then verily, he, between whom and you there was enmity, (will become) as though he was a close friend.
When the Eternal Lord of the Universe is saying that who are we to object? In fact we should try to be role models for others.
Furthermore He says:
“The recompense for an evil is an evil like thereof; but whoever forgives and makes reconciliation, his reward is with Allah.” (Qur’an 42: 40).
“And verily, whosoever shows patience and forgives, that would truly, be from the things recommended by Allah.”
An incident with Rasulullah صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم also emphasizes the importance of this noble act of forgiveness:
Rasulullah صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم was seated in a gathering with the Sahabah when he looked towards the entrance and said, “A man of Paradise is coming.” At that instance someone who seemed to be very ordinary entered the mosque where they were seated. A Sahabi was very curious as to why Rasulullah صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم had said that, so he followed the man to his house. The Sahabi told the man that he was a traveler and wanted to stay with him as a guest. For three days the Sahabi saw nothing unusual, so he finally told the man what Rasulullah صلی اللہ علیہ وسلمhad said and asked him what was so special that he did. The man thought for a long time and then said, “There might be one thing — before going to sleep every night I forgive everyone who has wronged me and sleep with a clean heart."
Subhanallah! Forgiveness is such an act which can guarantee a house for us in Jannah! Just forgive others and make your eternal abode in the most pleasant of all places!
Hazrat Ja’far ibn Muhammad رضی اللہ عنہ said, “For me to regret after having pardoned someone is more beloved than to feel regret after punishing him.”
Hazrat Qatadah رضی اللہ عنہ was asked, “Which person has the highest standing?” He replied, “The one most abundant in his pardon.”
My dear brothers and sisters let us think for a moment...what does holding a grudge against someone give us? An unpleasant feeling while forgiving will promote social ties and give a feeling of content. So let us start forgiving! Eid was here and it was a golden chance to start all our relationships afresh and wash our hearts of all the bad feelings for others! Forgive others just for the sake of Allah. Forgive others just because it was the sunnah of our Prophet صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم. Forgive others because Allah loves those who forgive. Forgive others if you wish to be forgiven by the All-Mighty Allah!
In the end I would like to share some quotes on the subject. Most of them are by non-Muslims but this should make us think that people who are going astray have said these words so why can’t we act upon them??
*Forgiveness is a funny thing. It warms the heart and cools the sting.
*Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself.
*Forgiveness is a virtue of the brave.
*The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.
So my dear brothers and sisters let us make this Day a day to remember and to promote good relations! And let us make Forgiveness Day a part of our lives!
Pray for me and I will pray for you that may Allah give us success in our mission and protect our country from breaking into pieces.